Thursday, December 31, 2009

2009 Recap

I've been having such a good time writing letters to Campbell that I have kind of neglected this blog a bit. My guess is that I will start using it less and less frequently. Which is OK. Maybe a resolution can be to write in it monthly or so.

I've been thinking about writing a lot lately. I really miss the days of really taking the time to thoughtfully organize my thoughts and challenge my beliefs. There have been moments of that recently, for which I am incredibly thankful, and hopefully they will become more and more frequent to eventually encompass days and weeks.

But I digress . . . here are some of the highlights from this past year.

  • Experiencing the craziness of pregnancy hormones, all the while knowing that I am loved by my husband.
  • Crawling on the floor of Target in an attempt to get Chunky Monkey ice cream.
  • Celebrating our first year of marriage a week early because we thought Little Miss Bell was on her way (when she didn't come until 2 weeks later).
  • Finding Elmer a great new home.
  • Gradually becoming more interesting.
  • And, of course, meeting our beautiful daughter! You can read more about that at Dear Campbell. :)
peace.

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Thankful

I've been spending most of my blogging time writing letters to Campbell since she seems to be taking up a larger part of this life now-a-days. But I wanted to take a second to write about this past year and give thanks.

The past two years of this life have been altering to put it mildly. Micah and I started "facebooking" about this time 2 years ago, we soon started dating, got engaged, got married, got pregnant, and became physical parents all within 20 months. We are now starting to relatively settle in...

And I am thankful.

I am thankful for an amazing husband. He loves being a husband and father. I love that he is passionate about Jesus, family, and being a photographer. I love that he and I were on the same page and willing to sacrifice financially so he could stay home. (Which has been amazing for his relationship with Campbell AND our marriage.)

I am thankful for an amazing daughter. She is hilarious, fun, and absolutely the most chill girl I know. I love getting to know her and seeing her personality develop. I love getting to teach her that we are always here for her and comforting her. I love reading to her and starting to teach her about Jesus and other nations at such a young age.

I am thankful for a heart that sings to be a mother. I am thankful Campbell will be a big sister (someday) and for being one flesh with a man who has a desire to give the lonely a family.

I am thankful for my quirky and loving family, as well as my amazing in-laws who love us so adequately.

I am thankful to my friend Becky for giving Elmer such a wonderful home.

I am thankful to my community at School 91. I have an amazing job and am blessed to be living into God's desires. I love my students and the staff. I appreciate an administration that allows me to stay home part time this year as well as a great job share partner.

I am thankful to be a part of a great church family and house church. Common Ground constantly challenges me to grow in my faith, encourages me to seek the Lord, and teaches me more and more about what it means to follow Jesus. My house church keeps me in check, loves me when it is both easy and difficult, and provides me with accountability and friendship.

I am thankful for friends to read books with and live life with.

I am thankful that God is faithful and persistent. I am thankful He whispers that he loves and misses me in my ear and that He is pursuing me.

I am thankful for Jesus' life on this earth and the legacy He has left for us. I am thankful I have an opportunity to follow in His footsteps and I pray that my heart continues to form to His.

May you recognize many thanks in this season. And may God's blessings be upon you.

peace.

Friday, November 6, 2009

Get out the VOTE!

Campbell is a finalist in a Halloween photo contest! If you would please go vote for her here:

http://murraycrew.blogspot.com/2009/11/4tunate-halloween-photo-contest-top-5.html

it would be MUCH appreciated!

peace,
Carter

Monday, November 2, 2009

quick update

So, it's almost midnight here on Kingsley Drive and I promised Micah I would stay up with him while he finishes a proof book for a client. He didn't ask me to stay up with him, I just knew it would be another way I can support him. He is an amazing man and wonderful photographer. I don't know if it is possible for a woman to be more proud of her husband than I am of him. It is my joy to stay up with him...to show my love and support of him, but also it gave me a chance to write my first entry in our new blog!

dearcampbell.wordpress.com

I've always wanted to have some kind of clever niche to blogging...for a while I thought I would incorporate the phrase "drunkenly staggering," or at the very least "staggering," into every post. But, alas, I couldn't smoothly make that happen.

But I discovered I like writing Campbell letters.

We will still maintain this blog, but my hope is to turn it back into something a little reminiscent of previous blogs...something to share our thoughts, and not just the day to day and statistics of our absolutely perfect daughter. :)

See, she's pretty perfect.

So anyway, check out dearcampbell.wordpress.com and check back in here sometimes as well.

peace.

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

3 months

Dear Campbell,

In true Bell fashion this letter to you is late. You turned 3 months old on Monday. Three months of our lives have been filled with your snorting, wiggling, crying, smiling, and pooping. Three months of our lives have only given us a fluttering notion of how you will change us.

You are the most precious gift God has given us. You have taught us so much about love and given us a glimpse of how God must love His children. Never would I have imagined the feelings I get when looking at you. It's like my heart is about to jump through my chest.

You've gotten too big for Daddy to toss you in the air. I swore I would never let myself forget how tiny you started, but it's already starting to fade. I just do my best to remember how it felt to have you fall asleep on me since you are no longer content snuggling.

You love to see the world and are always checking out your surroundings. You love looking at the fan above our bed, watching Dinosaur Train (much to Daddy's pleasure) on PBS, following the dogs while they play, and staring at pictures in books as we read to you. You love when Daddy reads you Cat in the Hat or when Mommy talks about the pictures in Eric Carle's Animals.

More often than not you are happy. You have the best, gummy smile and laugh at all our silly songs and voices.

I miss the days of cuddling, but love the baby you are becoming!

Love you, baby Campbell!

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

on being interesting

So Micah and I have been talking quite a bit about my post on being interesting. Micah has been so incredibly supportive about how I'm feeling...he is just an amazing husband, father, and man.

Our house church makes sack lunches for the Pourhouse (www.pourhouse.org) on the 4th Sunday of every month. We've been doing this for a year or so and our amazing friends the Wilsmans decided it was time that we partake in community with the people we serve once a month.

I was having a particularly difficult day on Sunday and feeling very anxious. I had been trying to get out of serving meals with the hopes of sitting around and watching TV, but Micah thought about my pleas and determined that we would go serve meals because "it would make me more interesting."

He was right.

We took the cutest crying baby ever (other people's words, not mine) and went down to the veterans memorial in downtown Indy. We strapped her onto myself with the Baby Bjorn and let Campbell work her magic!

Babies are the best conversation starter ever. All we had to do was stand in front of the steps where people were sitting and waiting for their meal and James came to us. He fawned over our darling girl for a few moment and then we started talking. He and Micah hit is off pretty well and I struck up a conversation with a couple walking by. Well, actually they approached us with the question, "Is this baby homeless?" :)

We met lots of people...a woman and her boyfriend who had been trying to get pregnant for years and were now past their first trimester, a man reading Plato for leisurely reading, a father who had a wallet full of pictures of his children and could not be more proud...and we loved them to the best of our abilities. Campbell smiled and cooed and worked her charm. We did our best to not judge, but to care and show respect.

It's difficult, but we strive. We love. We do our best to turn to Jesus and just be.

peace.

Saturday, September 26, 2009

pictures


Here are some pictures taken recently. (Spoiler: the final picture is NOT for the faint of heart...) The first picture is Micah reading to Campbell! She loves being read to and has started "reading" back to us!


Check out her double chin and first pair of jeans! She looks like such a big girl! I get teary eyed about how quickly she is growing! I remember scoffing at a person who was dropping off their daughter in the nursery and tearing up because her daughter was 6 months old, but now I totally understand! I am so thankful that I get to be home so much in Campbell's first year of life!


This is a (blurry) shot of the pouting game she loves so much! About one second after this picture was taken she smiled at me.

And now for the gross picture...seriously, if you can't handle poo scroll away now!







(Pardon the baby bottom...)

This is Campbell's finest masterpiece. She did this for us a few weeks ago...hard to believe that tiny bottom can cause such a mess! But, oh! She is a pro!

I believe this happened around 5:30 in the morning. I was changing her diaper inbetween sides when I noticed something on her bottom. It looked like part of a wipe had gotten caught between her cheeks. When I went to wipe it off, she shot poo not only all over the changing table but all over my hand and arm! I screamed and Micah came running. He manned holding her legs while I went to wash my hand. Then I heard him shout! I came running back to this...she had sprayed not only onto the receiving blanket, but also on the side of the shelving unit...amazing.

Hope you enjoyed the pictures!

peace.

Friday, September 25, 2009

Cars, Coffee, and Campbell

*My car may officially be retired. It's true. I'm pretty disappointed in Nissan. My 2000 Altima only had 120,000 miles on it. Seriously? When did properly maintained cars only start lasting 10 years? That's pretty pathetic. Another "Seriously?" Why do people think they can charge $2000 for cars from the '80's? Though I did find a woody wagon that hold 9 people that was pretty exciting.

*We probably won't get another car until January. Woot for the one car family! Kind of... Parts of me are excited. It's a chance to really clean and organize the house (instead of moving our mess from room to room). It's an opportunity to read the Buffy the Vampire Slayer comics (laugh all you want, Joss Whedon is a genius!) that Micah got me for Christmas last year. I can hone my photography skills on our beautiful daughter. I can start the Bible study I bought and planned to do over the summer. I can bake! I can rediscover some of the parts of myself that I miss. Micah even mentioned starting to put documentaries back onto the Blockbuster queue.

*I am going to start running a FREE coffee house from our home. Not really anything fancy, but I'm excited none the less. People who come by to visit will have many choices of tea, chai, hot chocolate, and freshly pressed coffee to choose from. Plus it will be a good way to unload my baked goods and show off a clean and charming (but probably slightly disorganized) home.

*We will save a few bucks by only having one car to put gas into and pay insurance on...insurance south of 52nd St. in Indy is kind of expensive.

*Campbell has started pouting. It's hilarious. Today she would laugh and follow it up with a pout. Then I would say her name and she would look at me and smile. I don't know if she is playing or just forgets why she is pouting when I say her name, but either way it's hilarious. And a good indicator that at a mere 2 months she is learning to work the system.

*peace.

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

connection

i am typing this with campbell in the crook of my left arm. she is babbling, discovering her hands (by putting them obsessively into her mouth), and occasionally throwing a fit. her temp. has been 99.7 the past 24 hours, so not on the definite fever side, but still higher than normal. i'm just waiting for the tylenol to do its thang.

i ran across my old blog yesterday. my first thought when reading some of the entries was, "i used to be so interesting!" there was something very sobering about that being my initial reaction. why don't i feel interesting anymore? i'm essentially the same person i was...though my packaging is slightly different than it used to be. having a baby changes your body quite a bit.

i used to be so connected. and i miss it. i used to spend hours pouring over music on itunes and at luna and the library. i knew the indie underground. i went to concerts. i had opinions, and most importantly i could support those opinions.

i knew what was going on in east africa. i read the bbc news website. i listened to npr. i was an advocate and strove to give the voiceless a voice. i dreamt of having a little rainbow family.

i went to the y and out to coffee with friends. i went to my students' performances outside of school.

i found great joy in trying to live as minimally as possible. i pined for Jesus to tell me to sell everything so i could follow him. i wanted to quit my job and live in a pop up trailer so i could travel and love people like Jesus. i was so connected to my faith.

now all i hear from God is "I miss you."

i really want to finish this post with something sweet like: but with my sweet girl sleeping in the crook of my left arm i wouldn't trade this for anything.

but it's not true. i love micah and firmly believe he is the most amazing gift from God. i love my daughter, she's amazing. but i miss being connected to the Lord. i miss being advocate. i miss having conversations with people and being passionate.

but i am grateful for this little life. i miss the life i was living in my old blog, but i am still thankful. my hope is just that i become interesting again.

peace.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Our BIG girl!


Our baby girl is getting SO BIG! I seriously can't believe how much she is a full fledged baby now and not a teeny newborn anymore! She holds her head up on her own, she laughs and smiles a ton, and she loves to "talk."

These are all huge rewards for me! I love Campbell, but the first 6 weeks were tough. Lots of tears from both of us...on top of her fits (plus a couple of my own). So it is amazing to have some kind of response from her other than a nap. She is starting to respond and be teachable in a way that is apparent.

We had her 2 month appointment today. :) She was 11 pounds, 14 ounces and 24.5 inches long! That puts her in the 70th percentile for weight and 90th (!!) percentile for height! She has outgrown most of her 3 month clothing, so we have already had to switch her into 6 month clothes! I can't wait for her grandparents to see her next week! If I am able to see how big she has gotten, they will really notice.

Below is a photo we took when she was just 10 (or so) days old...she was so tiny then... :)

peace.




Friday, September 18, 2009

marriage

When most people get married I expect their first thought isn't "when will we get divorced?" Really, while we all know divorce exists most think they are exempt.

My parents divorced when I was in high school then got remarried 2 years ago. My dad was married to my sisters' mom before that. My brother is in the midst of a divorce that is crazier than a soap opera. And, recently, I have found that a handful of my friends are in the midst of divorces themselves.

And it's my friends' divorces that have hit home. The divorces in my family were evident in their coming. But the divorces in my friends' lives have caught me a bit off guard. Especially since they still love their soon-to-be ex-spouse.

I am not writing this to judge, not in the least bit, but to realize that life is fleeting. And no matter how much Micah and I say that divorce isn't an option (which we firmly believe), marriage is work. Regardless of how blissful it is currently, any moment can be invading in the destruction of this bliss.

Doom and gloom aside, I write this as a reminder that Micah and I need keep the communication open and honest. We must continue to share ourselves with each other-emotionally, intellectually, physically. This is made none easier by our beautiful daughter. We must cloak ourselves in prayer and not to forget to pray together. We are not immune.

We work really hard to have an easy marriage. :)

peace.

Thursday, September 17, 2009

This is the life...

God is good. Actually, way better than good...

Campbell is just beautiful. (I've been trying to post pictures, but it hasn't been working, silly blogger.) Her doctor took me off all milk and milk products and she turned into this happy, smiley, independent baby. She loves to hang in her swing, she smiles and "talks." She actually played in her crib for an hour the other day while I slept in until 9:20! She's a perfect little baby.

Her new appreciation of the swing has allowed me to visit a past love-baking! Our kitchen doesn't allow extravagant adventures, but it is just nice to mix things and use the oven again. I've made a cake (with homemade icing!), brownies, and am making a dinner for a family today (breakfast for dinner!).

Finally, what makes this the life is how much other people love Campbell. Especially one little Moses.

Moses is our friends, the Brileys (thebrileys.blogspot.com), little boy. He is almost a year old and is about the cutest baby EVER. Julie is an amazing mom and has taught him so much, including how to kiss. :) He will pucker up his lips if he wants a kiss, it is adorable.

Last night at house church, Moses really wanted our friend Jillian (inhislovehewillbesilent.blogspot.com) to kiss him, but we were trying to get him to crawl to her for a kiss. Micah handed me Campbell during this, and Moses crawled over to baby Campbell and puckered his lips! I put her on the floor and he leaned in and kissed her cheek! It was super cute and I hope to get a picture of it someday.

Daddy is sad he missed seeing Campbell get her first kiss from a boy. But he also has decided Moses is the only boy (other than himself) who can kiss Campbell-and only on the cheek. Any other boy needs to wait until she is 24.

peace.

Sunday, September 13, 2009

baby steps

Don't let the title of this blog mislead you...Campbell may be advanced in our eyes, but she isn't walking just yet. (Though, if she is mad, you can hold her up and she will mimic the motion of walking...it's kind of freaky but totally normal, according to the baby books Micah reads at least.)

I am taking baby steps.

We left her with a bottle with Grammie and Grampa last weekend and went on a date. We went to the outlets and bought Micah a wedding photographer outfit (he has 2 wedding in the next month!) and then we went to dinner-where the restaurant had decided to change their amazing deep-fried breadsticks to mediocre oven baked ones. Afterwards we tried to do lots of things that were closed because we were in Angola, Indiana where nothing is open past 9.

But it didn't matter, because we were by ourselves for 4 glorious hours.

And we were ready to see her again by the end of those 4 hours.

When we left the house, I kissed her and told her that mommy and daddy need to just leave and be by themselves sometimes so we can be better parents for her.

I am taking baby steps.

We left her in the nursery today at church. She may be the youngest baby to have ever be dropped off in the nursery. But Micah was ready and I was pretty ready. I only had to go check on her once. And she was asleep when I did.

While in the nursery, her friend Moses Briley scooted to her to say "hi!" We know Moses from house church. I am happy she has such a good friend at only 8 weeks old! After she and Moses interacted a bit, she fell asleep.

While Campbell was in the nursery, Micah and I had the best worship experience we've had in lots of months. It was so amazing. And as hard as it was to leave her in very capable, kind hands, it was wonderful to sit in the front row again and be engaged in worship and teaching.

I am taking baby steps.

peace.

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Oh! What a day it has been!

We all know that Campbell is a fussy, fussy baby. And we all know that she is loved dearly by anyone who meets her. Yesterday I had my first experience of inconsolable crying in public while at the library (of all places). Today I had my second experience.

She woke up upset this morning and the past week or so, her crying has made it difficult for her to eat. So after struggling to feed her, I thought a car ride/trip to Target to get "Gripe Water" may be the best thing to do for her.

I was wrong. She screamed in Target for 20 minutes. She only stopped when I took her out of her car seat. I held her while pushing a cart with my hips. As soon as I put her back in the car seat she started up again. I was then approached by no less than 4 people and got evil glares from one more.

She stayed up through two more feedings. When she fell asleep, I decided to nap. While laying down, I touched my ear and found a brown, hairy SPIDER in it! I couldn't take a nap after that (and am still a bit fearful the spider laid eggs in my ear), so I decided to eat lunch. On the way to the kitchen, I checked the mailbox.

In doing this I learned that if I don't close the door fully Elmer can open it. So he took off, Inu followed shortly after.

By this time it had been 3 hours since Campbell had eaten and she was sleeping. So I woke her up, resulting in more crying, put her in the Baby Bjorn, and started trekking through the neighborhood. Elmer ran ahead of me the entire time, but I couldn't find Inu.

I came back to the house, fed Campbell, put her in the car seat, and took off to find Inu again. I drove around for 20 minutes and was taking a pass by the house when I saw her sitting on the front porch. She was disgusting. She still is disgusting.

It's been a day. I'm exhausted.

peace.

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

A case of the fussies

Campbell experience life fully. She soaks in naps (preferably on mommy or daddy's chest) and sleeps for long periods of time. It is practically medieval torture to wake her from sleeping. No amount of tickling, tossing, cold wash clothes, and blowing air into her face will sufficiently wake her.

She loves to eat, but still prefers sleep.

She feels pain...not because we inflict upon her, but just in general. She can scream with the best of them and has recently started screaming to a point that no sound is released. Her faces scrunches and turns tomato red...it looks painful and practically gives me a headache watching her.

But on Sunday she showed us that she experiences other things too...she laughed at daddy. It was one quick giggle, but it was enough. She has since given me many super smiley moments. She is definitely capable of experience and exhibiting joy.

She also has started showing affection. As she has gained head control she will lift her head and study our faces then bury her head in our chest. It could be from tired muscles or it could be that she loves us. I prefer to believe the latter.

peace.

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

The big ONE!

Campbell is one month today!

The last month has brought forth the following:

*comparisons of labor to terrorism (ask Micah)
*an amazingly speedy recovery from giving birth
*Carter losing 30 pounds (still have 20 to go, 35 'til my goal weight) and Micah gaining 5 (the hospital food was amazing)!
*suspecting colic
*the screaming going from up to 11 hours a day to just a few instances per day in the period of 2 weeks
*odd feelings when driving a car
*odd feelings when driving a car without a car seat
*only almost forgetting to bring her with me once
*realizing that school has started and that I'm not there
*many annoyances from the dogs (anyone want Elmer?)
*lots of cuddling
*lots of laughing at our very noisy when eating, burping, or stinkering little girl
*lots of relearning to be husband and wife with a little baby

Seriously, though, I don't think I ever realized how hard it would be to be both a wife and a mother. I strongly believe that God calls mothers to first be a wife, that in the pyramid of family God is first, spouses are second, and children are third. And it's hard. It's hard to not become overwhelmed by both the good and challenge of Campbell. Micah was, is, and will always be first...as I stagger in trying to figure out how to maintain that I often forget that is God's intention and it is He who will make it a reality. I just happen to be blessed by a wonderful, patient, and understanding husband in the process.

Also, I never realized how much I adore my job...and while I am treasuring my time with Campbell, I miss the children and miss teaching music. It is eye opening as to how blessed we are as a couple...it's a very challenging fairy tale life I am abundantly blessed to live.

peace.

Monday, August 10, 2009

a stubborn girl

Campbell is one of the most willful people I have ever met. It makes sense being that she is from Micah and me and we are both stuck in our ways, to put it nicely. (As a side note, we have learned how to be married and stubborn...and are still working through the kinks.)

Last night she woke up around 3:45 to eat. We got back to bed around 4:10. I like to listen to make sure she is settled in before I succumb to the waves of exhaustion calling me back to sleep. I had to work hard to stay up while she got settled last night because the process wasn't complete until around 4:45.

You see, Campbell is particular about where her feet point when she sleeps. And if I'm not paying close attention I will lay her length wise in the bassinet, even though she likes to sleep width wise.

She spent 35 minutes last night turning herself a quarter turn before we both had permission to welcome the sleep that was gently calling our names.

peace.

Friday, August 7, 2009

But before I update you on Campbell, a big congrats to our friends Bret and Erin Hawkins who have just endured the LONGEST pregnancy EVER and will be bringing home their daughter Grace Min Wei Hawkins from China on Saturday! They've been pursuing her for 4 years and finally have their daughter! You can read more athttp://bretanderin.blogspot.com/

(And I thought 9 months was long suffering!)

Campbell has been in the real, live world for 2 weeks and 3 days now...instead of eloquently trying to update you on her life, our lives, the dogs, and general observations, I am going to do a point by point of whatever I can think of to write while I wait for her to wake up for her next feeding.

*I feel like I understand little parts of God more now. I have a better grasp of what it means to love in all circumstances-be it the smiles or the screams...as well as what it means to have the past wiped from your memory, much as I imagine what is meant when Biblical writers speak of God forgetting our past transgressions. As soon as Campbell was born, one of my first thoughts was that I would bear another child again in a heartbeat! This is similar to how I feel after a monster of a screaming fit...the fit could last (and have) up to 4 hours, but a soon as it is over I am consumed with love for Campbell. I forget how long the hours seemed and am brought right back to the moment of having my sweet girl snuggling on my chest.

*Campbell is a great eater, she gained 14 ounces in 8 days...and grew an inch! And one of the best parts is that when she is searching for her food source she snorts like a pig. Seriously, I feel like I am in "A Christmas Story" where the mom is telling her son to show her how a little piggy eats! Campbell is a little piggy.

*Being a mother is infinitely more difficult than I ever imagined; but as in all challenges, it is also infinitely more rewarding.

*I am blessed with amazing family and friends who love deeply.

*Nursing is a lot like boxing...I have ointment to treat the wounds, Micah feeds me water while my hands are tied, and when I get up from the rocking chair it hits the metal lamp a lot like a bell. And every once in a while, a cold wash cloth is needed...

*Campbell sleeps amazingly well in the night most of the time. We have had nights where there has only been one interruption and Campbell sleeps up to 5 hour stretches. I believe this makes up for her refusal to take a morning nap and only taking a shortened evening nap.

*Books make things sound easy. I never guessed that nursing could be one inch short of medieval torture. Or that getting a routine would require so much effort. Or teaching a baby to sleep in a crib would be so heart wrenching. I am all about the tough love as a teacher, but even I have my limits as to how long I can listen to Campbell scream (not cry, but exorcist scream) before I have to get her! All I've realized I can do is take it one nap at a time.

*Campbell is wicked strong...both physically and in the will department. She can lift her head for upwards of 20 to 30 seconds. She can push her way up your body with her legs. She likes to grab Micah's chest hair and pull really hard. Strong willed wise, if she wants cuddles she will scream until she gets them. We are on our 4th day of no morning nap until it's on my chest. I have tried to teach her to sleep in the crib, but she has cried for up to 45 minutes when left to her own devices.

*Micah and I have to make great efforts to stay connected to each other. We started to get the hang of how to be husband and wife while being parents then he went back to work. I miss him.

*Our lives are consumed by eating and pooping.

peace.

PS This blog was interrupted twice in the writing. :)

PPS Our internet is spotty at best, so writing and publishing this was a nine hour process...kids change lives a bunch.

Thursday, July 23, 2009

My Beautiful Girls


Where to begin? It has been a crazy year and a half. You know what they say, "First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in a baby carriage."

It rocks.

I've never felt as blessed as I do right now. Carter and Campbell are both snoozing after their morning feeding and I'm left to the peace and quiet of picking up the house. I love every minute of it. I love doing their laundry, I love making them breakfast, and I love sweeping the floor. Right after Campbell was delivered Carter said the look on my face was unforgettable. That perhaps God had created me for only two reasons. To be a husband and a father. I can only hope that is true, because I feel completely fulfilled in this.

I was just sweeping the kitchen floor and thinking about how much of a Rock Star Carter was during the entire labor and delivery process. I've never been as proud of anyone as I was of my wife on Saturday and Sunday. When I think about it I begin to weep with love and thankfulness for what God has provided to me. I am rich beyond measure. I stood in the kitchen and just began to praise God for all of the gifts he has given to me. I feel like having a daughter has finally allowed me to see the love of God the Father. All encompassing, all loving. We are never out of his mind or his heart and I know that know. I might have believed it before, but today for me it is Truth.

My daughter is the most amazing thing I've ever seen. The way she sleeps, cries, snorts....I could go on and on and on. I'm crying again. =)


I'm thinking about how great our families have been and how wonderful our community is. All I can do is shed tears of thankfulness and joy.

Thank you all for loving us so well.

peace
micah

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Stumbling through Labor



This is Campbell Jane Bell born at 12:39 PM on July 19th weighing 8 pounds, 3 ounces and 20 inches in length. This is her story, at least the first couple hours of it.

I was in labor either 31 hours or 22 hours depending on when you count labor starting. I started regular contractions at 5 AM Saturday morning, but they weren't progressing my dilation and effacement when the doctor asked us to come into to be checked. So we went home...and when the contractions started at 3 PM and were so painful I was tearing up but I was too stubborn to call the doctor, we finally went back in around 10 PM. I had dilated to between a 4&5, so I was commanded to stay. :)

Around 2 AM the contractions were real strong and I was crying through a few of them. Don't get me wrong, they hurt...but I think it was more that I was exhausted and had only gotten about 2 hours of sleep Friday night and hadn't really slept since. So Micah and I decided on an epidural so we could get some sleep while I progressed.

Only I didn't progress and after a really upsetting conversation, that left me in tears, with the doctor on call (our doctor was off the clocks this weekend) we finally convinced him to let me go another hour before break my water. When my water was broken, but nothing really came out (our darling daughter was positioned in such a way that she was blocking the flow) and I progressed a centimeter in 2 hours, he ordered the pitocin.

Micah and I were dead set against the pitocin-unless it was an absolute emergency. We had had numerous talks with our ob about this...but we didn't have our ob delivering us so he didn't know about these conversations. And when I was trying to explain our feelings to him, he basically said we brought this on ourselves by getting an epidural.

But he is the medical professional, so we got pitocin. And it wasn't near as bad as I thought it would be. Though the epidural wore off in my delivering area and, in spite of two more attempts to renumb the areas, it stayed that way until delivery.

Labor was a tough, tough process for me. I got about 4 hours of sleep from Friday morning until Campbell was delivered at 12:39 on Sunday. I can handle pain pretty well, I can't handle exhaustion. It amplified all the good things and hard things that happened. I struggled a great deal with not having the doctor who cared for us for the last 9 months deliver Campbell-I never thought it would be that hard. I struggled with having residents care for my body and being poked and prodded several times in similar ways so that they could gain field experience. I struggled veering from what we wanted originally-as simple as a labor as possible, in that minimal interventions would be used.

But here is the good news-I pushed for less than an hour. And towards the end, I even got to let the contractions do all the work. My body took to delivering a baby better than anticipated and damages were relatively minimal and minor. I never lost feeling in my legs and feet.

And Micah was absolutely amazing. Seriously, right after Campbell left my body I looked at him and felt that God had created him for two purposes in life...to be a husband and a father. He was so supportive, so loving, and just perfect during the whole process. The second he held Campbell she stopped crying. They love each other so much...and they've only known each other outside my womb for 9 hours!

Campbell is absolutely perfect. She didn't cry when she got her shots...she fussed a little when getting cleaned, but as soon as Micah took her she stopped. When I got to hold her, she just started at me. She is beautiful and loving. She latched on to nursing right away and by the 4th feeding she fed 15 minutes on each breast. We've attempted to do a feed, wake, sleep pattern with her in the 9 hours she's been outside the womb and she has taken to it...

Now I know that all these things can change. It's been 9 hours, though it feels like an eternity. But we are just about the most proud parents in God's good earth. Pictures don't do her justice.

I am writing this as I listen to Micah snore and watch Campbell sleep. I am excited to join in their slumber as well. We are blessed, blessed people-but the blessings seem to be shining a little brighter for us on this 19th day of July.

peace.



Wednesday, July 15, 2009

If this isn't America...

I am not a particularly patriotic person, I am grateful for where I was born and raised, but when I met Jesus I pledged my allegiance to Him-not a country or flag. But every once in a while I run across something that makes me uniquely proud to live in the USA. Last night it was this group of men.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Adventures, part two

Before I let everyone into our hopes and dreams, a quick update...

Still 2 cm, but 75% effaced. If she still isn't here on guess date (7/20), we'll have an ultrasound to see how big she is and then go from there. :)

So, here's a little glimpse into our hearts...what we desire for this life God has given us together:

1) To listen to NPR as a family at breakfast every morning.
2) To watch PBS news in the evening before dinner.
3) To listen to vinyl records after the kids go to bed and share our days with each other.
4) For Micah to be able to work from home as a photographer so I can continue being a teacher.
5) To travel for missions work as a family in the summer.
6) To adopt as many children as we can afford and have a little rainbow family.
7) To, someday, run an orphanage together in an impoverished nation (retirement?).
8) To live simply.

So, that's a start. One of my major desires in finding a life mate was that the person had to have a heart for adoption. And God blessed that and provided Micah for me. We realize we don't even have one out of my belly yet, but our hearts continually come back to the children God has for us all over the world-maybe in Indianapolis or one of the US coasts, maybe Brazil, maybe Africa, maybe India...

God gave us each a heart for the nations that only grows stronger as my evangelical and compassionate nature combines with his intellectual, practical, and gentle nature.

peace.

Friday, July 10, 2009

Adventures

So, Micah and I saw the movie "Up" a few weeks ago. It was perfect. It was a great little story with cute and interesting characters. We both laughed, cried, and enjoyed our time experiencing the movie together.

We had several loving and tender moments throughout and after the movie (we're both kind of saps). Once all our tears were shed, we started talking about adventures and what kind of adventures we have had in the last 18 months and what kind of adventures we want to have in the future.

I just wanted to share a few with you and give you a little glimpse into our hearts a bit.

We both agree that the dogs have been a great adventure in the past year. We got Inu before we were married (which meant I had the joy of being a "single parent" for 2 months), but she has brought a great deal of life and joy into our lives. One of the most insightful moments for me was when we lost her. Micah stayed so strong for me because I felt like it was all my fault. He drove around the neighborhood relentlessly and eventually just lost it. It was the first (and one of the few times) I've seen him sob out of sadness.

Then our journey to getting her back (a whopping 15 hours later) was another adventure that involved phone calls on Christmas day, going out in our slippers and PJ's, running red lights, and hugs from strangers. :)

The adventure of Elmer and his bloody mess is another.

Other adventures have included incredibly late night talks, both online, in person, and on the phone. Being so tired the first month of our relationship is a complete blur, taking some of my students to a play, going to California for spring break, our drive up the 101, getting lost in Oakland (this one comes back in conversation often), the sewage explosion of '08, our absolutely perfect wedding, the naked dog fight, buying our first piece of furniture and then greatly regretting it, the jeep trip on our honeymoon, and finding out we're pregnant...to name a few.

We have a special box where we keep mementos to commemorate our adventures and it is surprisingly full already. :)

So, here's to many more boxes in the future!

peace.

PS I realized I didn't write about future adventures. Just know they involve adoption, travel, orphans, loving, and living somewhere that isn't the USA...sometime.

love.

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Week 38

Yesterday was our week 38 appointment...and it was about the same as the week 37. I progressed just a teensy tiny bit, but for the most part am about the same. I have been spending some time thinking about what it means to be patient and constantly come back to the "Fruit of the Spirit" song I learned in Uganda.

I definitely do not invoke the natural spirit of patience, but I feel like I am learning a bit. I remember listening to a sermon a few years ago about patience. In the sermon Tim mentioned that patience best translates into "long suffering" as it is used in Galatians. He then talked about the his greatest bout of long suffering was when his wife was pregnant and they were waiting for their son to be born.

My initial response was, c'mon it's 9 months....it's not that bad.

But, oh, have a I learned...it is that bad. But God is good. And this has been a good experience to lean on Him. So I'm just trying to take it in for all it is worth, love Micah, and enjoy our little life.

I'm just ready to be able to bed down to pick things up off the floor again, without grunting.

peace.

Sunday, July 5, 2009

fresh air

So, I've been stumbling through week 37 of pregnancy. My mother had both my brother and me in week 37. My grandma Shepherd had 18 kids (pretty sure they were all born at home as well), so she was pretty experienced in the birthing department as well. I figured/hoped I would be that lucky, to skip a few weeks of pregnancy and have it be easy.

And it might still be...but I'm tired of the wait. I think I would have been OK if our very conservative doctor would not have given my husband a playful nudge on the arm as he left the office last Monday and told him that he "better get ready."

I didn't mean anything against anyone in the last post. Micah and I have invited any reader of this blog, our family, our friends, and the entire facebook community into week 37 of being pregnant. But what that means is that people want to know what is going on, a very humbling and loving situation. And I am so excited and cheerful that people desire to be involved. It makes me feel very loved and cared for.

But it sucks when I don't have any news to give anyone.

-------------FRESH AIR---------------------------------

Today at church I was talking to a friend I initiated a gathering with over a month ago, but that gathering still hasn't happened. I apologized to her and caught her up to date on our appointment last Monday. I told her that I had been really careful all week about scheduling things because I am afraid of being out of the house if I do go into labor. And I finished up my monologue with how frustrating it is to take all these precautions and still have nothing happen.

She then provided me with a breath of fresh air. It was simple, but perfect.

Di told me that my body is getting ready to have a baby and the further along I progress without going into labor just indicates that labor will, most likely, be easier and shorter because I will be that much closer to being fully dilated when Miss Bell decides to grace us with her presence.

And it brought peace and comfort to my soul.

Though I still convinced Micah to go for a brisk walk with me this evening. He lovingly obliged, and after the dogs had done their duty, really enjoyed our trek into Broad Ripple.

It was a great way to celebrate our currently family on our one year anniversary.

peace&love.

Saturday, July 4, 2009

doctors

So, we haven't had the greatest luck in the doctor department. Until recently, that is!

I've had a general practitioner who was fine, but her office staff was terrible-to the point where one of the nurses refused to call me "Carter" because it wasn't my given name on my birth certificate.

I had an OB that took over 3 and a half years to diagnose a very simple problem.

We had a vet that charged exorbitant fees for simple procedures.

But I feel like our luck with doctors is changing!

My OB was on maternity leave when we got pregnant, so we switched to someone else in the practice who has been AWESOME. We love him. He recommended us to a fabulous pediatrician. We got several recommendations for a GP in Broad Ripple who we met the other day and he was great as well.

It feels great to have wonderful doctors.

But there is one in particular that was the most difficult to decide upon-yes, even more difficult than the pediatrician.

Our veterinarian.

Dr. Doyle at Eastwood Animal Clinic is no ordinary vet. No, he is a swearing, straight talking, uses a person scale to weigh animals (he holds them while weighing himself), and wears his vet uniform from the 1970's kind of vet. An appointment is $38 plus $7 for each additional animal you bring with you. An appointment includes all medicines (minus shots) he may administer to your pet and all procedures.

But the best part is that he revealed the truth of Elmer.

Elmer is a normal, 9 year old dog. He has no major problems and will, most likely, need no major medical procedures. He also referred to Elmer as a Heinz 57 dog, with most likely a shepherd/hound mix of some kind to him.

So, $16 for ear wash and $1 per xanax pill later for Elmer and we have a healthy dog who looks to outlive us, potentially. We don't know whether to rejoice or to be a little overwhelmed. (Just kidding...kind of.)

In other news, I'm just trying to avoid thinking about Miss Bell's avoidance in making her appearance in this world.

And I hope I don't hear another person say that she'll come anytime when they hear that on Monday I was 2 centimeters dilated and half effaced. I promise I appreciate your observation and enthusiasm for the birth of our daughter, but I might just scream at the thought that she could come any moment and yet she isn't....

peace.

Thursday, July 2, 2009

nesting (again)

Ever since we got the news Monday that the arrival is Miss Bell would be pretty soon, it's been interesting to see how 4538 Kingsley is reacting.

I find myself praying often...but not for noble and good things. Here is an example.

"Dear Lord, please let me be able to dust and sweep the bed room and wash the walls in the bedroom and living room before our daughter comes. Amen."

All I really want it to have a super clean house to come home to from the hospital. And I'm finding the progress I've made to be very helpful in achieving this goal (minus the dog hair and dust that comes with it). Cleaning has been relatively easy and keeping up on laundry the same.

Micah has taken it upon himself to actually settle into the house. The more we do to make it a livable space (turning the spare bedroom into a den, per se), the more we both believe that we could be here for a while. We've even had talks about finishing the bath in the basement and putting in a master bedroom and a play room. That would give us a good while longer in this home and space for a few more children.

Micah has been a superstar the past couple days (with the help of Bill and Evan). Monday's appointment, I think, kicked him into gear a little.

On the other hand, the dogs have been reacting in their own way as well. We have taught them to stay out of the nursery (though Inu is still a little suspect-but no longer takes toys at least) and trained them to sleep in the den (which doesn't help with the dog hair issue, but at least they are no longer in our room). But Inu has been "nesting" in her own way.

For instance, as I type this, she has pulled the couch cover off of the loveseat in the den into the hallway and gathered it into a ball. It's taken her about 20 minutes to accomplish this.

Elmer, on the other hand, has just taken to sleeping more often than normal. Though usually he is interrupted by Inu as she pulls whatever his bed is out from under him.

So, things are going well in the Bell house...and I'm on my way to dusting, sweeping, and cleaning walls!

peace.

Monday, June 29, 2009

one year of marital bliss!

Well, one year will technically be Sunday. But we celebrated it tonight with an impromptu dinner, gifts, and cupcakes.

We had our 37 week appointment today where we were told I am 2 cm dilated and my cervix is still half thinned. Dr. Cleary has been very conservative on any chance of us going early, but did say that he would see us in a week, if not before...he really led us to believe she will be here sooner rather than later! Potentially this week! Which means that we will probably NOT make our goal of having our one year anniversary just the two of us.

So we celebrated tonight! We had dinner at the Cheesecake Factory and then went to Luna where we each picked out a CD (Miss Bell did too...Trout Fishing in America). We came home and snuggled for a bit, then had cupcakes from the Flying Cupcake.

We couldn't really have the top layer of our wedding cake because the dogs ate it. Which is actually an incredibly humorous story, but rated PG-13...

Both Micah and I were virgins when we got married, so the hang of sex took a few (incredibly fun and funny) attempts. But after a few days, we were pros.

We waited a week to go on our honeymoon so we could participate in our friends The Bensons wedding ceremony, but wanted a few days away from Indy right after we got married. So we took 2 nights in Nashville to ourselves, then came home.

The rest of our cake had been safely placed in our fridge, but I got it out to nibble a bit before getting distracted by my incredibly handsome husband.

So, we were "practicing" what we had learned in Nashville, when all of the sudden we heard a crash and then a dog fight! We immediately stopped what we were doing and Micah ran buck naked into the living room to break up the fight the had commenced over the top layer of our wedding cake...

We lost our chance to have the top layer of our cake for our one year anniversary...but getting cupcakes in the same flavor as the top layer (red velvet elvis) is not a bad second. :)

peace.

Sunday, June 28, 2009

satisfaction

I'm taking out stock in Ben and Jerry's. Specifically Chunky Monkey Ben and Jerry's.

Micah and I participate in Community Supported Agriculture. Every week we get a load of nutritious veggies and some fruits. If we aren't careful, some of the good goes to waste, so we have to plan carefully. Yesterday night we decided we wanted Pizza King pizza with salad. While out we picked up a few more things for the salad and ran to Blockbuster before getting the Pizza. As we were leaving pizza king, I sheepishly said, "You can say no, but could we run by Target so I could get some ice cream?"

Micah, in his generous and loving spirit, agreed-but only if I got him a pint of Chunky Monkey as well.

I hopped out of the car (well, hopped is a relative term) and walked quickly (faster than a snail's pace) across the store to the coveted freezer holding Ben and Jerry's. Much to my dismay, Chunky Monkey was not in its typical location.

Without a second though, I dropped to my knees on the floor, opened the freezer door, and started to root around until I found the last two pints tucked behind the Phish Food and Cherry Garcia. When I went to stand up, I realized an elderly black man had been holding my freezer door open for me the entire time.

I sheepishly smiled at him, said my thanks, and added how much I appreciated him. He gave me a knowing look and held up a box of drumsticks.

He then added, "When you want ice cream, you want ice cream!"

peace.

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

NOT Stumbling through Pregnancy

There are parts of being pregnant that lean towards the hardest thing I've (and probably) Micah have ever gone through...and I've been through a decent amount in these 27 years of life.

But, this is dedicated to what I love about being pregnant...

1) I have to walk slowly. It's nice to be able to have permission to take time getting places and enjoy the scenery.

2) I love having a desire to clean. I love (and am most at peace) with a clean house, but expecting a child adds a new excitement to cleaning.

3) I love Monday afternoon appointments and how I get to see Micah at 3 and spending the rest of the afternoon and evening with him.

4) I love feeling our little girl dance and move. :)

5) Even better, is sharing in our little girls movement with my husband. Just the two of us sitting on the couch or snuggling in bed and having family moments.

6) Napping and having reasons to sleep more often.

7) The decision to stay on Kingsley Drive...while it's not permanent, it's good to know where home will be for a little while longer. The end to the pursuit of greener grass is wonderful.

8) I love the long term perspective God has given us through this...and being married to a man who shares such a common vision. It's amazing to be so united with someone who puts family above all else and is willing to sacrifice to put family first.

9) The purging part of nesting. Sweet release of material items!

10) I love seeing our love for our daughter reflected in the eyes and hearts of our family and friends.

peace.

:)

Well, things are starting to come together! Less than 4 weeks until guess date! Travel has been limited to within an hour of the hospital, we've discussed our birth plan (though a better term may be a 'go with the flow' plan), laundry for clothes 0-6 months has been washed, and plans for the rest of the house (minus the living room) are done.

We've started getting the dogs to sleep in a different room in case we find it easier in the beginning to keep Miss Bell in the bassinet in the room with us. We have learned how to "inu-proof" a room-after losing 2 pairs of shoes and a duster, not to mention lots of chewed up trash. My hope is that after a couple nights we have learned.

At the doctor's appointment yesterday, we discovered that I'm on my way! I'm dilated a "fingertip" and my cervix has thinned about halfway. :)

Monday, June 15, 2009

update

There has a bit of staggering as we get the house together for Miss Bell...especially considering we are a bit organizationally challenged in a particularly small space. But it is slowly, but surely coming together. Though not at the same speed as we are acquiring blessings for our smallest blessing!

Two huge blessings came this weekend-both at the same time!

Micah's dad, Steve, came down Saturday and stayed through Sunday afternoon to help around the house. They had lots of amazing bonding time accented with putting together the rest of the nursery furniture (which means I can start nesting!), a new garbage disposal, and ceiling fans. Lots of luxuries that make life just a bit easier. Steve is so precious to Micah and me, so it was wonderful to share this time with him.

What made it most special to me was seeing how much Micah loves his father and how that will impact how Micah raises our daughter. It was also fun to see Steve loving Miss Bell before she is born through his service and words (to my belly, of course)!

The other huge blessing was that I had an absolutely perfect baby shower on Saturday (not even a week after another perfect shower with our families in Auburn last Sunday)! I had an amazing time seeing a group of women I love dearly while be blessed beyond measure for the birth of our daughter.

It is amazing to see people so freely love Miss Bell that have not even met her yet!

Pregnancy has been a very difficult experience for me, but I am just full right now. Full of love for Micah, our families, our friends, our dogs, and Miss Bell!!!!

peace.

Friday, June 5, 2009

Staggering through suffering

I have a friend who was on an anti-depressant about a year ago. She was really struggling with taking the medication because she felt it helped her escape suffering. She felt like God wants us to see injustice, carry the cross, and experience the suffering of those around us.

I agree with her.

I have been seeing a counselor for depression and anxiety off and on (mostly off) since 4th grade. (That's since 1991.) I have been on medication off and on since 2001. For the first time I am completely at peace with taking medicine-for lots of reasons.

One of those reasons was revealed to me this morning. I was driving to meet with another dear friend for coffee at 6:30 this morning and thinking about the past few days of life and if there was anything significant that I had noticed God doing. I thought about what I had accomplished in the past days (not very much) and realized that while I hadn't checked lots off the to-do list, I had done a lot of things I typically love to do.

And I wondered what had changed in life to make me-all of the sudden-desire to read articles about injustice, fight the government, and watch documentaries...and came to the realization that suffering wasn't all about me anymore.

I wasn't so preoccupied and overwhelmed by my suffering so I could share in the suffering of others. I wasn't miserable and feeling like a failure. Instead I was feeling close to God and empowered to fight the good fight...to seek out justice and truth and be a part of ushering the Kingdom that is already here into the lives of those not recognizing it.

And it feels good...I feel like God has given me my life back...that He has explained to me that struggling with depression and anxiety has given me opportunities to share in suffering with others, but He has provided relief. That it isn't a punishment that my serotonin levels aren't quite what they are supposed to be...instead these experiences will be used for His glory.

I feel like God is shaping me into the mother I am supposed to be. A mother that teachers her child-someday children-about injustice and loving others, about being the hands and feet of Christ, about using our voices to tear down walls and build up the people.

And it feels good...and peaceful.

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Drunkenly Staggering on Kingsley Drive

A few weeks before we got married last summer, 3 feet of other people's poop and toilet run off came up through our basement drain. We were storing the Moore's (then serving in Ukraine) and Kandice's (getting read to serve in Central Asia) personal belongings. Many of our personal belongings were in the basement as well.

We lost everything...their things, all my pictures from birth through age 21, Micah's entire book library, many of my sentimental items that were in storage and in waiting to pass down to children...

It was a good lesson in where I placed my treasure. We survived (with Micah waking at 5 to come over super early in the morning and save what he could).

Yesterday we had a nasty hail storm. The streets in this neighborhood were flooded, ice was abundant, and it was a bit scary. I figured the basement might have some back-up but wasn't sure and didn't look.

But Micah looked, said it was gross, and I took him at his word.

I was out of clean clothes this morning and had done a load yesterday before the backup, so I thought I would go down to see if they were OK. The first thing I noticed in the basement was all the sludge on the ground. The second thing I noticed was the smell. I grabbed a clean pair of undies and a shirt, then came back upstairs and called a plumber.

What the plumber told me was the sewers and water lines run into each other (ew, gross) when it rains really hard and it would cost us $1500 to fix the basement. While it sucks that it is so expensive to fix this problem, what sucks even more is that we live in a neighborhood with people who have no means to fix the problem. Especially considering this is a problem of the CITY WATER AND SEWAGE DEPARTMENT.

So I then called the Department of Public Works.

The woman I spoke to there was incredibly helpful, sent my claim, and told me someone would be out shortly to look at our basement.

I felt powerful, I had called the man and gotten results! I felt like I was fighting for my neighbors and hopefully giving them something in the long run-that our days of having our basements filled with sewage were soon to be a distant memory.

A few hours later the DPW called, didn't come to the house, but called to tell me that our sewage problem was a common problem in this neighborhood and our best bet would be to put in a $1500 valve.

When I told him that I didn't find this acceptable and many people in our situation can't afford to put in a valve-especially given it is the city's malfunctioning water and sewage systems-he just tried to explain what happened again. So I asked him for who I could talk to about getting this fixed and he gave me some phone number for the Indianapolis City Engineering offices.

I feel like I am staggering through how to fight for my neighbors. Especially when I feel like there is injustice happening because I live in a largely impoverished neighborhood.

We have other people's poop coming into our basements in my neighborhood and all I can get is, "That's what happens when it rains really hard."

So, let's begin drunkenly staggering through this endeavor of loving our neighbors.

peace.

Drunkenly Staggering

So, I have decided to hold true to the name and title of this blog. While I understand that we have been rather preoccupied with events looming in the near future, the quote that inspired this blog still rings true.


I know which is the road that leads home and if I weave like a drunken man as I go down it that does not mean the road is the wrong one.
~Tolstoy

Home...this word means a great deal both Micah and I. Home for me is many things. Home is 4538 Kingsley Drive. Home is with Micah wherever we may be-in the car, making sandwiches for the Pour House, or snuggled in bed. Home is welcoming the Kingdom on earth.

So, we drunkenly weave the road that leads to the places that are our home. We weave as neighbors, as we learn to love each other more and our Father more fully, we weave in relationships, and as parents.

So, here's to stagger as we navigate, so be it...but we continue to stagger towards the cross.

Monday, June 1, 2009

confession

Micah and I set lofty goals for ourselves. All kinds of them...from weight loss to setting a schedule for Inu to organizational endeavors to savings accounts...goals help us keep our eyes on the prize...well, the kind of prize that doesn't involve Jesus. Though, what doesn't involve Jesus, really?

Anyway, I need to confess to you that we have decided to make our home livable...and part of this is enjoying living here. We got our furniture for the nursery at a great price from IKEA. We are super excited about how functional and useful it is. We have spent a great deal of time coming up with space saving ideas and purchases for the house. The most awesome thus far is a $10 pot lid wall holder. Normally we keep our pot lids under the stove. But since they are now on the wall, we got to empty one whole cupboard of bakeware and make room for some gadgets there were housed on the kitchen table.

So, here is the confession. We have decided to turn the 2nd bedroom into a den. (The 3rd bedroom is the nursery.) We're pretty excited about it. Eventually we will buy a "corner couch" for the room, but for now we have the loveseat. The glider we just got for almost $80 off will be in the den as well.

Part of turning the 10' x 11' room into a den was creating space for entertainment. We bought a big TV shelf with 18 13" x 13"boxes around the edges. It's what goes in the middle that I need to confess.

We bought a flat screen TV. And while not ashamed, it's a bit weird. We weren't super excited about the TV. It took us a week to plug it in. But it's flat, so it doesn't take up much space. Did you know that they don't even really make tube TVs anymore?

This is the first TV I have purchased. I had a 13 inch in college that my Dad traded me for a 24ish inch later. When Micah and I got married, we used his slightly larger TV.

This was doesn't take up much space and has a real pretty picture and colors.

So, there you go, we have a flat screen TV.

peace.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

nesting

Things have been getting around the past month in the Bell household. Micah and I are continuing to enjoy just being the two of us (plus Inu and Elmer) while looking forward to soon being a family of 3 + 2. :)

I have started measuring "on" and am officially 32 weeks! Which means that July 20th due date is looking pretty steady. I am anxious to no longer be pregnant, while appreciative of the time we will have before Miss Bell is born.

On a more serious note, at our doctor's appointment 2 weeks ago Micah and I made the decision together that I should go on an anti-depressant. It was a very personal decision that I am happy to discuss and that we both (along with both of the doctors involved) are grateful for. It has been enormously helpful for our marriage and alone time, as well as having taken off some of the anxiety I was feeling towards the actual time after Miss Bell is born.

Two weeks in the meds have started to kick in a little, which is always nice for the last few days of school. Which, by the way, my last official day with kids is Friday! Can I get a "woot woot?!?!??!?!"

Other than all that, we had a very nice long weekend after a very busy last week. We slept lots, finished season 4.0 of Battlestar Galactica, did churchy things, had dinner with friends, and went to IKEA yesterday. We got the last piece of furniture for Miss Bell's room as well as a few pieces for our new "den." IKEA was also having a big sale on our favorite series, Expedit, and we got 2 new piece of Expedit for $40 off each! Which was very exciting.

On the dog front, Inu had some misfortune today which ended in an emergency vet visit. But all is well, other than a sore bum. I have never heard her really "cry" before, and man, after seeing Micah run to her side, I have no doubt that he will be the most protecting, providing, and loving father. If he is so gentle and caring towards our dog, I can only imagine the love he will lavish on our child(ren).

We have also decided that we need to budget a little more for veterinary care for the dogs. Some things you just learn the hard way.

As for summer break, I have decided to make a "to-do" list for the time before we deliver Miss Bell. It will be filled with things like "organize spices" and "sort through cloths" and "make a goal outfit for once you've lost the 40 pounds you've gained" and "clean the floorboards" and "spray for ants" and "wash all 14 loads of Miss Bell's clothes." You know, fun things like that.

If you've made it this far, I have a fun story for you. :)

Today, while Dr. Cleary was listening to Miss Bell's heart, she punched the doppler twice. :) His response was, "Geez, she's active!" :)

peace&love.

Monday, May 4, 2009

slacker

I'm a slacker. Fo' sho', my friends.

I have this gigantic portfolio thing due Friday and I haven't really started it yet.

The trash cans are down by the street and I'm perfectly capable of pulling them up the driveway, but didn't really feel like it.

I did have the dishes, then put the rest in "to soak" 24 hours ago and they are still there.

I pulled all the clean clothes out of two laundry baskets (3 loads) and piled them on the bed this morning to find a pair of undies that fit to wear today. There is no body part that is going unchanged as Miss Bell (and my bum) grow. I was tired after work today, so I just pushed all 3 loads of clothes over to Micah's side of the bed so I had room to rest.

And it's been over a week since our last doctor's appointment and I have yet to really share any of this information.

Miss Bell has been continuously measuring 2 weeks ahead. I am unsure if 1) she is actually 31 weeks developed and not 29 like we though, 2) the insulation on my belly is causing an extra inch or two in the tape measure, or 3) she is just hugemongous. It's anybody's guess. Though the weight I've gained has me leaning towards option 2.

And I do have to say that it does not make me feel any better when the custodian at work touches my stomach and says, "Shouldn't your stomach be harder than this? I'm worried because it's still pretty soft."

The only thing that keeps me hanging on to hope is that 25% of pregnancy weight gain is liquids. Which I can testify to, being that I get up every 1-2 hours to go to the bathroom in the night. In fact a new record was accomplished last night. I got up 7 times between 11 and 5:30. And even then, I went to the bathroom twice more between 7 and 8.

Who knew going to the bathroom and weight gain could be so interesting? :)

In other news, Micah-my stud of a husband-put together a porch swing yesterday. My only question is to how long the neighbors will be able to tolerate us looking lovingly into each other's eyes and kissing...I'm pretty sure if someone based a reality TV around us, most people would vomit after about 5 minutes...and keep vomiting until I had an emotional outburst about breaking dishes.

peace.

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Stories from the Field

Today I said "freaking" in front of a class. As in, "You have got to be freaking kidding me!" It was the only thing that could possibly fit a situation in which a group of 11-13 year old students had no concept of following procedure that had been set since last August.

Also, I had a class of kindergarten students get in trouble today for meditating loudly during instruction time. How do I call their parents? What should I say to let their parents know what happened?

Yes Ms. Smith, I'm sorry to bother you, but I wanted to let you know the Jeremy wrote me an apology today for meditating during class. It was very disruptive and caused us to stop our activity before we could get back on task.

peace.

PSA

I reread some of the previous blogs as a reflection on pregnancy yesterday. I just want to apologize for my pregnant brain and lack of proof reading that has been a part of this whole process. I'm almost embarrassed. But, in all reality, I'm too tired to care enough.

While I am scared poopless to be a parent, I am excited to be done being pregnant. Each day just gets a little bit harder...and I still have about 12 weeks to go.

peace.

PS In the process of writing this e mail I had to correct 6 word choices, for instance, I initially typed "e mail" instead of "blog." See what I mean? And to make matters funnier I realized I just did the same thing in this portion. The word "e mail" should be blog. But I'm too lazy to correct it. Instead I'll just continue typing about it...

Sunday, April 19, 2009

And yet another story from the battle...

When Micah and I watch movies we sometimes push the couches in the living room together so we can hold hands while still having some space. Today I thought it would be really funny to climb my big belly on top of Micah before rolling over to my designated chillaxing spot on the loveseat.

My plan majorly backfired.

I am not graceful to begin with...Micah has this really great story from when we were first dating and I rolled off the couch and fell flat on the floor without trying to buffer the fall at all.

So I crawled onto Micah, put myself flat on top of him, and started to roll to my couch-but my knee someone went between the couches. This caused the couches to separate from each other and I fell on my left ankle with my right knee. The right knee slid off the ankle and crashed into the floor.

If that wasn't enough, I thought it was pretty funny. But in the process of getting off the floor I kneed Elmer right in the face, which I didn't find entertaining. So I started crying, hard, while still laughing about the fall. My mixed emotions got the better of me and after a few moments I could no longer breathe.

It was awful.

And now I'm just tired, but deeply in love with my wonderful husband who manages to love me and recognize that I'm not completely crazy. There are reasons to stick this out...you know, small things like a fabulous house in the 'hood and large things like our daughter who will be here in 3 months!

On a side note, we had a wonderful weekend. We went to Bloomington for a few days and nights, enjoyed some time together, and came home yesterday. It was amazing to get away and just "be" together.

Yesterday we registered at Target. And it is nice to have that done as well. :)

peace.

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Last night...

Last night was hard. I was a hormonal tornado.

In the process of sorting clothes, I knocked a whole glass of water into the clean clothes basket. Which, of course, lead to a complete mental and emotional breakdown. I SOBBED for a good 15 minutes.

During this time I got incredibly upset with Micah because of his response to the question, "If you could have a baby, would you?" He answered that he couldn't have a baby, but if he could he would. But he paused before answering me.

And that pause determined my thought that he was completely lying to me.

So then I got really mad at him because he couldn't have a baby.

This seriously happened.


Today we had another doctor's appointment. It was pretty great. A lot of our questions were answered about the birth, after the baby, and future planning of our family.

Miss Bell's heartbeat was a strong 150. I am measuring a little large and have a suspected bladder infection. So that means more fun testing in the near future! WHOO HOO! I don't have gestational diabetes, but am slightly anemic.

The sad part is that as long as I maintain a healthy baby, no more unltrasounds. :(

peace.

Sunday, April 12, 2009

Hope

Micah and I are dorks...nerds...geeks...whatever you want to call it, we're totally square.

In the 9 months we have been married so far, we have come to realize that we enjoy the finer parts of life like Buffy the Vampire Slayer, the X-Files, Firefly, and-the newest addiction-Battlestar Galactica. Not to mention zombies, vampires, and a myriad of other science fiction.

These have been both a bonding experience and comforting as we have navigated these first 9 months. We never intended on having a baby so quickly, our hope was that we would learn to be married first, but that in itself is a bonding experience for many reasons. It's nice to have an escape from the constant excitement my hormones bring to our relationship.

I mentioned in a recent blog post that I had been feeling better...those feelings left a few days ago. The honeymoon of second trimester is over, and the day I entered the third I could understand why the second could be compared to paradise. Praise God that He carried both Micah and I through the month of March. From a career standpoint, we could not have asked for a bigger blessing than how well I was feeling.

I hear the service at CG was amazing today. I feel like I should know, being that I was there, but I don't feel like I got to experience much. I felt like poo. While worshiping at the end of the service, I became overwhelmed. I'm tired of feeling like this. While I attended the majority of the Revelation series, I don't remember much of it. It's a struggle to experience worship, partake in communion, and just be with God when I am fighting my body.

This morning at church, on Easter Sunday of all days, I gave up hope of feeling better.

And it's been a hard day. I never realized how I would cling to hope and allow it to carry me through the times of poo. And out of all things to help me come to this realization, it wasn't reading about the Love of Christ displayed on the cross or the promise to the criminal that He would see him in Paradise.

It was Battlestar Galactica.

Micah and I started the third season today, and about 2/3 of the way through the first episode I just started crying. Crying to the point that we had to stop the video and Micah needed to just hold me. You see, the setting had been displayed as a place void of hope. To the point where I felt no hope...and it was a struggle to watch < BSG >.

As Micah was holding me, we started the video again. And it I would have waited about 3 minutes, a message from one ship to another would have popped onto the screen telling me to, "Have Hope."

peace.

Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Micah's blog

Micah published his first blog post! :) You can find it here:

http://blog.micahbellphotography.com/

What I've been hearing lately...

...is that I look great! It's really wonderful, because I feel pretty great. And I had the realization that my house church (many of whom I met last April/March) haven't ever seen me doing well. I started going shortly before Micah and I got married, which equates wedding stress. Then we had the period of adjusting to being married...then I miscarried...and then I got pregnant and it "stuck." So it's been a while since anyone has seen me be outwardly joyful and playful. I look forward to that sticking for a little while...even if I do feel like a bit of a whale.

Now, I am not someone who has particularly enjoyed being pregnant. Even when Miss Bell is doing gymnastics, I think to myself, "This feels interesting." Not that I love to feel her move...and she moves A LOT. But there is one thing that I do love about being pregnant.

It is an open forum for discussing weight gain. And, for most, it is completely acceptable to start a conversation, "When I was pregnant I gained 47 pounds!"

Well, I was doing so well on the weight gain deal. For about a month I actually lost a few pounds, which is no danger for my healthy and padded body. But one day I got hungry...and I ate a box of Velveeta shells and cheese for lunch and followed it up with a half pan of brownies. Then I ate some toast...and followed it up with a box of TJ's Pad Thai and a bag of edamame. And that's how three days went...no matter how much I ate, I had gnawing hunger. And I gained 4 pounds in 3 days.

So I went from gaining 12 pounds at 19 weeks to gaining 19 pounds at 25 weeks. And all I want to eat is chocolate. And luckily I have a husband who loves our child (and me) enough to know that I cannot live off of chocolate alone.

peace.

Sunday, March 29, 2009

Heartburn, amongst other happenings

At 3 AM last night, I awoke with this feeling like acid was eating my brain. Micah and I were having a relatively snuggly moment in sleeping, so I woke him up by saying, "Honey, I hate to say this, but your squeezing me and it's giving me heartburn." When he let go of me, the heartburn didn't get any better. So at 3 AM my narcoleptic husband went out to find TUMS.

Praise God for a wonderful and caring husband.

At 20 weeks, I was stoked because all of the sudden the cloud lifted...I felt pretty decent! At 23 weeks, I started having trouble getting comfortable while sleeping...and now at 24 weeks I have heartburn. TUMS, other than Jesus and Micah, you sustain me.

The blessing in all of this is that March SUCKED. Micah's biggest client at work is the NCAA and their big project is the Final Four. Micah has lovingly referred to March as March Sadness. It was a rough month between his work and my super huge school program (which went off without a memorable hitch).

So, I'm exhausted and Micah is too...though he has another week of craziness to endure while I am on spring break and am FINALLY going to finish thank you cards.

In the midst of all of this, I am thankful that my three-four weeks of being on the up and up were during March-the least forgiving month of the year in the Bell household.

And I am super thankful for spring break!

peace.

Friday, March 13, 2009

Update on El-man

We heard back from the ER vet last night. All of his tests came back completely normal. Her guess is that he has a bacterial infection in his gastrointestinal tract. He didn't respond as if he was in any pain when she checked...but she also said he has a terrible ear infection in his left ear and exposed roots in his gums and he doesn't act like any of those things hurt either. Other than fluids coming from orifices, he doesn't act like there is anything abnormal. Maybe he has that nervous system disorder that means he doesn't feel pain...now only if he could fly.

On the plus side, his doggy immodium kicks tail.

So, we'll take him to the vet over my spring break and get some of these bacterial bad boys busted.

On a side note, I think Inu has finally reached her limit of Elmer attention and now barks any time she sees me looking at something other than her.

peace.

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Elmer




Inu gets lots of nods on our blog. Which makes total sense. She has the looks and personality. She is young, vivacious, and bad. Micah and I got her together and have had her since she was a puppy. Inu is our quintessential first dog. We plan on having her forever and comparing every other animal we have to her. When we lost her for 15 hours, we cried for at least 6 of those hours. Micah sobbed harder than I had ever seen him do so in our relationship.

But we do have another dog. Elmer. Elmer is ours by default. Though, we did change his last name from Shepherd to Bell, so it is not in location only that he can be called "ours."

I decided to get a dog one afternoon while sitting at the hospital waiting for my brother to get out of brain surgery (true story, he had a tennis ball sized tumor in his brain). Looking at dogs online from the Humane Society of Indianapolis was both therapeutic and entertaining. There were several dogs I was interested in being that I was looking very specifically for a dog that was not a puppy and not huge given my apartment living status.

Elmer was not one of those dogs. I don't even remember seeing his profile on the HSI website.

A few days after the surgery (which went very well and gave my brother a titanium skull), I meandered into the humane society and started to look at the small dogs (any dog under 35 pounds). I didn't feel any particular connection to a specific dog, but while walking by the first kennel the volunteer said, "If I had room for another dog, I would take Elmer home." She then proceeded to tell me that he had been at the shelter for over 3 months and that he was going to be euthenized to make room for all the animals coming in from Hurricane Katrina.

This made me feel terrible. I desperately wanted a dog, thought this dog was ugly and smelled kinda bad, but didn't want him to be put to sleep. So after a few visits outside with him, I said I'd take him.

I should have known there was more to the story when the check out girl told me in adopting Elmer I was never, ever allowed to bring him back. Never.




Elmer was deathly afraid of storms, the oven, and cameras. Afraid to the point that he ripped up 500 square feet of carpet in the apartment, chewed through a garbage disposal cable, burrowed under the sink and dug a hole in the back of the cabinet, and dug a hole in my roommate's (Heidi) mattress. After these incidents, he was put on Xanax-the same medicine I was taking for anxiety at the time.

When we Heidi and I tried to crate train him, he destroyed 2 metal and 1 iron crate. He ripped out all of his toenails digging out of the crate.

He also has the most annoying bark in the world.

He would run away and scare the neighbors-seriously, we would hear them scream whenever he got out of the house.

He never got on furniture-unless we weren't home. Then he would sleep on the back cushion of the couch. The cushions never returned to their original shape.



Last night I came home to a disaster. Elmer had vomited and had diarrhea all over the living room and kitchen. Plus there was a huge puddle of blood in the kitchen.

Ever since Micah and I got married, Elmer would get sick every 6 weeks or so. He would refuse to eat or drink for 4 or 5 days and throw up/have diarrhea every couple hours. Usually by the time we would decide to take him in to the vet, his illness would magically lift.

But this bought has been different. And Micah and I have had several conversations about how far do we go to save him...how much do we spend...ethically, what would God desire us to do to care for His creation as a whole...we committed to caring for Elmer, what does this look like with children?

Last night I was certain that it was going to be our last night with Elmer. I cried and cried and cried. Micah came home, cleaned up the mess, and we went to the pet hospital. On the way, we agreed to cap our spending.

The initial estimate to just see what is wrong with Elmer was almost $800. Way above our cap. The second estimate was right under the cap, so we took it and brought him home.

I stayed home from work today (2 weeks before the big school program) to monitor Elmer. I just fed him homemade rice and chicken-he loved it. He will be getting a bath this afternoon. We should find out the test results today or tomorrow.

I never really thought I liked Elmer all that much. To put it bluntly, he is kind of a pain in the ass most of the time.

Last night, when we went back to pick him up from the hospital after running to the store, he trotted right into our waiting room, looked at Micah and smiled.




Soon to come: Elmer's greatest hits